My darling, you are allowed to fail without being a failure. You are allowed to make mistakes without becoming one. More opportunities will present themselves, you will find hope again.
you are not your mistakes, and you are not your failures. mistakes, and failure turn into accomplishments, and success. :)
Anonymous said: hi i'm really starting to lose faith in everything trying to lose weight. instead of getting any progress, all i gotten is a lower self esteem and a couple extra pounds. i don't think i eat nearly enough calories in the day as i should and i know its a bad habit but i'm just so lost. i feel like i'm never gonna make progress, i'm never gonna get that body i've always dreamed of... can you please help me?? idk what to do, where to start..
hello my dear :)
let me start by saying that believing is everything, change your thoughts and you change your world. there was a time when i felt the same. i had over a hundred pounds to lose, and that overwhelmed me. i thought it was impossible, that it just could not be done. when i first started, i didn’t’ even believe i could, but i tried anyway. i faked it. i failed countless times, but little by little, pound after pound, i was losing weight. i was successful. every accomplishment is a success. you need to remind yourself how wonderful you are, everyone has doubts themselves at some point, everyone has their ups and downs. don’t be so hard on yourself. i don’t know what your stats are, or goals. but it doesn’t matter, you can do anything if you work hard enough. surround yourself in positivity, smile, dig deep and believe, get excited, everything you want can be yours. hard work, patience, and positivity.
think about why you think you can’t, and think of every possible reason. and then find the solution. too much weight? just focus on one pound at a time, short term goals. don’t know what to eat? there are a million meal plans available. don’t know how much to eat? countless resources to help you. in the end, it doesn’t matter why you think you can’t. the truth is, you can, you have it in you, you just need to find it. i can’t express how stuck i felt, that things would never change. but you can change everything. i thought i had way too much weight to lose, but there are people who were much heavier than i was that have lost more, if they can do it, so can you. if i can do it, so can you. it starts with you, your thoughts, create a vision board of your favourite quotes, whatever inspires you and look at it everyday, multiple times a day. ask yourself why you want this, and never forget. everyone has their off days, and its always good to indulge every now and then, encouraged in fact. but just make sure that you are healthy 80% of the time, try to preplan your meals, listen to your body and do what works for you. if you think you’re not eating enough, write down what you consume, and it might give you a wake up call. i don’t have all the details, but how concerned would you be if your friend, sister, girlfriend, boyfriend, a child, a loved one told you they are not eating much. have that same concern for yourself. you are important. just focus on being healthy and happy :)
you need to remind yourself daily of what you want. and just bathe in it, soak it in every day. believe it, be about it, breathe it. you’re already there.
i believe in you, now you just have to believe in yourself <3
i’ve linked some resources to help you below:
tumblr guide to healthy living
how to stay motivated
Plan that helped her lose 100 lbs (link does not work )
How she lost 90 lbs
Veggie pizza with cauliflower crust
Raw ginger snap balls
Baby carrots and hummus
Quinoa salad in a jar
Meal ideas from runnersworld
Best breakfast, lunch and dinner
Realistic foods for breakfast & weight loss
Strawberry Banana Spinach Smoothie
Eating and exercise
When & What You Should Eat
50 Awesome Pre and Post Workout Snacks* really great list!
Pre workout choices
15 steps to get the body you want
Exercises you can do at home (try a few to start if you are a beginner)
and feel free to message me off anon (i won’t publish anything without running it by you), or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you feel more comfortable, i’ll be on gtalk if you’d like to chat (this is an open invitation to anyone) :)
*edit: i’ll be on gtalk in an hour or so :)
Anonymous said: I'm a 20 years old female, I weight 180 pounds and I'm 5'1''. I'm super picky when it comes to food, so that makes dieting very hard because most of what I like is unhealthy, and what is left gets so old eating it every day. I do believe that you must get your nutrition in line before you focus on anything else. I am not a huge fan of working out, and I am sleepy most of the time. It sounds like I am making excuses, but I just don't know what to do. It is also hard to stay motivated. Any advice?
i think everyone experiences that to a degree. you have to keep pushing yourself, and your tastebuds will slowly adapt. you might have spinach and think its gross, but if you keep eating it, you’re taste buds will adapt, or you can add spinach in smoothies like I do. start eating healthy foods that you already like.. any fruits, or vegetables, increase those in your diet. if you don’t like any right now, then try new things, but keep eating healthy. if you like smoothies, use those to get the nutrients your body needs. this is going to sound funny, but when i was on a really strict eating plan, i got sick of it sometimes, and i used to pretend that there was no other food left on the planet, it worked most of the time. you can also eat the food you don’t like first, so its out of the way, and then the last few bites of your meal can be what you like, so you’re left with that taste in your mouth, rather than what you don’t like.
i say this to everyone, but if you don’t like exercising, just walk, take your ipod or whatever with you, or talk to someone on the phone, but just go outside and walk, and do some stretches before and after. do you like riding a bike? if so, you can go bike riding and that would be good exercise. swimming, even going to the mall, shopping burns calories! if you’re sleepy most of the time, that could be because you’re not eating right. its always good to talk to a doctor, even get a blood test, you could have low iron or something that can be easily taken care of.
i think you have the intent, now its time to put in the actions, if you want to be healthy and happy, you just have to do it. i think all of us struggle with staying motivated, but you have to tell that voice in your head to shut up and just do it. and only focus on today. tell yourself that you’re only eating healthy for today, just one day, and one day will be easy. and repeat it everyday (obviously you can have a cheat day or cheat meal now and then) don’t think about the weeks of discipline and self control.
motivation. i think thats the trickiest thing to answer, because its different for everyone, and it comes from within yourself. only you can truly motivate yourself. think about what you want from life, what you want your life to be like, visualize your goal, get vision board, see yourself having accomplished everything you wanted, how would that feel? how would your life change? how would you change?
i hope this helps :) you can message me any time, on anon or off, let me know how you’re doing <3